Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
These verses are often read at weddings or referenced on plaques we hang in our houses, but I never really gave it too much thought. Yes, we know love is patient and kind. What of it?
While reading Holly Gerth’s book she describes how God loves us and wants us to love others ( Safe Person Checklist, page 107). What this does is takes the above verses and puts them in a new outlook that hits home. In reading the list I kept thinking “I need a lot of work to match this list.” However, that’s the point. No one in this world is perfect; However, as long as we are striving to love this way, we are following in God’s footsteps. So, let’s take a quick look and be honest with yourself on whether it describes you or not.
- Practices patience (This can be tough for me)
- Treats you with kindness
- Finds joy in your blessings and success (yours, not just their’s)
- Stays humble
- Considers your needs
- Gives unselfishly
- Is slow to become angry (I need a lot of work with this one!)
- Doesn’t hold grudges (sometimes it’s hard not to)
- Defends you
- Trusts you
- Hopes for the best
- Sticks with you no matter what
Anyone who has read this blog in the past knows I have patience issues! It’s something that I continually try to work on but am unsuccessful most of the time. If only I could pick up some patience while grocery shopping!
Of course, I have several other areas I need to work on as well but my top two would be having more patience and stop getting angry so quickly. In fact, they kind of seem to go hand in hand, don’t they?
What tricks do you have that help calm you down when you feel like biting the head off of someone who has angered you?